FAQ of the Day: How soon is too soon?
It is natural to want to connect with your loved ones as soon as possible, and while I have had successful readings shortly after someone has passed, I believe it is in the best interest of everyone involved (on both sides) to give yourself at least 3-6 months before scheduling a reading. This buffer allows both you and the newly departed to settle into and adjust to your new worlds, or what we often refer to as the “new normal”. Every situation is unique, and I consider grief to be like a fingerprint; each one is made up of lines and swirls, yet no two are exactly the same. A lot depends on the relationship between the departed and the bereaved. An adult child like myself, for example, who has lost a parent in their 40s or 50s (which, while difficult, is considered the “natural order of things”) may be in a very different place in the grieving process after a few weeks or months than someone of the same age who has lost a spouse or, the unthinkable, a child. In these situations, I have found that it can be very difficult to focus on the message being delivered when you are in the earliest, most profound stages of grief. The extreme emotional stress that you are under early on can also disrupt the connection during a reading, in much the same way that a random surge of energy can throw a breaker in your electrical box. For these reasons, I ask that you please consider giving yourself and your loved one time to adjust before scheduling a reading.