FAQs: Your Questions Answered
Q: Why are your reading times so limited (why don’t you offer them Saturday evenings or Sunday?)
A: As much as I appreciate the honor of reconnecting clients with their loved ones in the Spirit World, my own family comes first. My husband works traditional hours and we enjoy our weekend time together. Spending as much time as possible with my children and grandchildren is also a priority in my life. Writing and other professional commitments also take up a good chunk of my time.
Q: Are virtual (phone and Zoom) readings as effective as in-person?
A: Yes, and far more convenient for everyone involved. I have done virtual readings since day one for clients across the globe, and they work exactly the same as an in-person reading. It makes no difference where we are physically; whether we are across a table from each other or across a continent, Spirit will find us and communicate through me.
Q: What if I get bad news?
A: You won’t. I do not receive or deliver bad news. I will never tell you if or when someone will die. I may get a warning about something like taking extra health precautions because a condition runs in your family, but only if that warning serves a purpose/ can help you to avoid future bad news!
Q: How soon is too soon?
A: It is natural to want to connect with your loved ones as soon as possible, and while I have had successful readings shortly after someone has passed (and often hear from friends and family members on the day of their passing), I believe it is in the best interest of everyone involved (on both sides) to give yourself a few months before scheduling a reading. This buffer allows both you and the newly departed to settle into and adjust to your new worlds, or what is often referred to as your “new normal”. Every situation is unique, and I consider grief to be like a fingerprint; each one is made up of lines and swirls, yet no two are exactly the same. A lot depends on the relationship between the departed and the bereaved. An adult child like myself, for example, who has lost a parent in their 40s or 50s -which, while difficult, is considered the “natural order of things”- may be in a very different place in the grieving process after a few weeks or months than someone of the same age who has lost a spouse or, the unthinkable, a child. In these situations, I have found that it can be very difficult to focus on the message being delivered when you are in the earliest, most profound stages of grief. The extreme emotional stress that you are under early on can also disrupt the connection during a reading, in much the same way that a random surge of energy can throw a breaker in your electrical box. For these reasons, I suggest giving yourself and your loved one time to adjust before scheduling a reading, especially if you are unsure whether or not you are ready.
Q: Can you guarantee who will come through during a reading?
A: No. I do not have anyone on "speed dial" up there, nor am I in charge of who does or does not show up during a reading, and you should be highly suspicious of any medium who does. That being said, more often (MUCH more often) than not, the person whom you most wish to communicate with does make an appearance. The SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT piece of advice that I can give you is to trust in God, the Universe or whom/whatever you believe in to know whom you need to hear from and what you need to hear. It may not be who you think you need to hear from or maybe even who you want to hear from, but they always show up for a reason and they would not come through with a message unless it was for your good or for the greater good.
Q: Can you hear their voice or see exactly what they looked like?
A: Not unless I have seen them or heard their voice before, or if they sound like or are a dead ringer for you, someone famous, or that I know/have seen previously. The first way I am able to identify whom I am communicating with is a visual representation of a mother/father figure, husband/wife and so forth. They might also show me some identifying feature(s) such as hair color, build, facial hair or glasses. The voice that I hear is generally male or female, and fairly indistinct. If English was not their native language, or if there was something unique about their accent they will often revert back to it or try show me in this some way.
Q: How will I know that my loved one is truly present (that you are communicating with them)?
A: After the initial impressions described above, the next thing I pick up on is your loved one's personality or the part of their consciousness that survives physical death (the characteristics that made them who they were here on Earth). If there is any uncertainty about who I have on the "spirit hotline" –if you have a mother and a grandmother who you would be likely to hear from, for example– their "energy" (the way that they act and interact with me) usually clears up any confusion. I might pick up on whether they were wild and crazy or a rule follower; reserved and polite or extremely blunt; a sweet old lady or a grumpy old man. They will often give me their name or the names of others (living and/or deceased) who are important to them or to you; however, just as in life, some people are better at this than others, so I cannot guarantee that they will do so and I rely on the many other validations that they are able to share. Much of the interaction that I have with them feels like a game of charades. They act things out for me and throw in images, symbols, words, phrases and songs to help get their point across. As a language teacher I am used to translating and interpreting several languages, and Spirit Speak is simply a fifth language to me; one with an ever-expanding vocabulary, because I am constantly being shown new images, songs and symbols to add to the Spirit Dictionary.
Q: How can I help to ensure that I get the most out of my reading?
A: It is perfectly fine to come in with a bit of healthy skepticism (they call it healthy for a reason!), but you must also keep an open mind. I never want to know anything in advance, but once the reading has begun, I do need confirmation when information provided from the Other Side is on point so that I know we are moving in the right direction. My goal is for your loved ones to do most of the "talking", but a simple "Yes, that makes sense," or "No, I'm not sure I understand what that means," from you is sufficient to let me know whether I need to ask them for further clarification or move on. If you sit there stone faced and never say a word because you are afraid of "giving anything away", you will impede the process and get much less out of the experience because I will spend the entire time trying to eek out more "proof" that it is them, rather than getting to any important messages of love, thanks or apology that often come after your loved one has validated their presence. Finally, the better informed you are, the better you will understand the process and what to expect, so (especially if you have never been to a medium) I urge you to visit the What to Expect Page before your reading.
Q: Will you let me know if you hear from my loved ones after my reading?
A: No, I will not hear from your loved ones outside of your reading. As much I enjoy spending time with you and your loved ones in the Spirit World, I have read for hundreds of people, and if I were to get updates for everyone I’ve read for, I would be hounded by spirits 24/7 and have zero time to myself. When I was a developing medium (when I was still teaching high school and mediumship was a “hobby”), I heard from the Other Side just about anytime a family member, friend or acquaintance lost someone. Now that I am a professional medium, I devote my free time outside of work to the living; my husband, children & grandchildren.
Q: When should I book another reading?
A: There is no hard and fast rule. I see the majority of my clients once or twice a year. I ask that you wait at least four months in order to give your loved ones something new to talk about, and to allow any new developments in your life to unfold.
Q: What happens if I have a “bad” reading?
A: There is no such thing as a “bad” reading (I consider every experience an opportunity to learn), but there are times when the connection between a psychic and a client is less than optimal. This can occur when a client is not emotionally ready for a reading (after a recent loss), or if they come in with a fixed idea about what they want to hear, rather than with an open mind (especially where romance is concerned). Thankfully, out of the 1,000+ readings that I have conducted, this has happened only a handful of times, and in each case we agreed to call it quits roughly halfway through the session and I happily refunded their money. To better understand why this can happen -and to avoid potentially wasting your time and money- please click on the following link and read further if you are at all nervous or hesitant about booking a reading: WHY READINGS CAN GO WRONG
Click below for:
ADDITIONAL MEDIUMSHIP FAQs
If you are experiencing paranormal activity in your home and considering booking an investigation, click below to get the answers to the most common questions about hauntings:
PARANORMAL/HAUNTING FAQs
Many people want to know more about the soul’s journey after physical death... in other words, what happens to us after we die. I don’t always have time to answer these questions over the course of a reading, so I created this list of FAQs:
AFTERLIFE FAQs
For answers to questions related to General Psychic (Future/Life Path) Readings (and other random psychic phenomena), click here:
GENERAL PSYCHIC FAQs
General Psychic (Future/Life Path) Readings that focus on your love life come with a very different set of expectations. For answers to FAQs specific to this topic, please click below before you decide to book this service: (currently unavailable)
ROMANCE READING FAQs
A: As much as I appreciate the honor of reconnecting clients with their loved ones in the Spirit World, my own family comes first. My husband works traditional hours and we enjoy our weekend time together. Spending as much time as possible with my children and grandchildren is also a priority in my life. Writing and other professional commitments also take up a good chunk of my time.
Q: Are virtual (phone and Zoom) readings as effective as in-person?
A: Yes, and far more convenient for everyone involved. I have done virtual readings since day one for clients across the globe, and they work exactly the same as an in-person reading. It makes no difference where we are physically; whether we are across a table from each other or across a continent, Spirit will find us and communicate through me.
Q: What if I get bad news?
A: You won’t. I do not receive or deliver bad news. I will never tell you if or when someone will die. I may get a warning about something like taking extra health precautions because a condition runs in your family, but only if that warning serves a purpose/ can help you to avoid future bad news!
Q: How soon is too soon?
A: It is natural to want to connect with your loved ones as soon as possible, and while I have had successful readings shortly after someone has passed (and often hear from friends and family members on the day of their passing), I believe it is in the best interest of everyone involved (on both sides) to give yourself a few months before scheduling a reading. This buffer allows both you and the newly departed to settle into and adjust to your new worlds, or what is often referred to as your “new normal”. Every situation is unique, and I consider grief to be like a fingerprint; each one is made up of lines and swirls, yet no two are exactly the same. A lot depends on the relationship between the departed and the bereaved. An adult child like myself, for example, who has lost a parent in their 40s or 50s -which, while difficult, is considered the “natural order of things”- may be in a very different place in the grieving process after a few weeks or months than someone of the same age who has lost a spouse or, the unthinkable, a child. In these situations, I have found that it can be very difficult to focus on the message being delivered when you are in the earliest, most profound stages of grief. The extreme emotional stress that you are under early on can also disrupt the connection during a reading, in much the same way that a random surge of energy can throw a breaker in your electrical box. For these reasons, I suggest giving yourself and your loved one time to adjust before scheduling a reading, especially if you are unsure whether or not you are ready.
Q: Can you guarantee who will come through during a reading?
A: No. I do not have anyone on "speed dial" up there, nor am I in charge of who does or does not show up during a reading, and you should be highly suspicious of any medium who does. That being said, more often (MUCH more often) than not, the person whom you most wish to communicate with does make an appearance. The SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT piece of advice that I can give you is to trust in God, the Universe or whom/whatever you believe in to know whom you need to hear from and what you need to hear. It may not be who you think you need to hear from or maybe even who you want to hear from, but they always show up for a reason and they would not come through with a message unless it was for your good or for the greater good.
Q: Can you hear their voice or see exactly what they looked like?
A: Not unless I have seen them or heard their voice before, or if they sound like or are a dead ringer for you, someone famous, or that I know/have seen previously. The first way I am able to identify whom I am communicating with is a visual representation of a mother/father figure, husband/wife and so forth. They might also show me some identifying feature(s) such as hair color, build, facial hair or glasses. The voice that I hear is generally male or female, and fairly indistinct. If English was not their native language, or if there was something unique about their accent they will often revert back to it or try show me in this some way.
Q: How will I know that my loved one is truly present (that you are communicating with them)?
A: After the initial impressions described above, the next thing I pick up on is your loved one's personality or the part of their consciousness that survives physical death (the characteristics that made them who they were here on Earth). If there is any uncertainty about who I have on the "spirit hotline" –if you have a mother and a grandmother who you would be likely to hear from, for example– their "energy" (the way that they act and interact with me) usually clears up any confusion. I might pick up on whether they were wild and crazy or a rule follower; reserved and polite or extremely blunt; a sweet old lady or a grumpy old man. They will often give me their name or the names of others (living and/or deceased) who are important to them or to you; however, just as in life, some people are better at this than others, so I cannot guarantee that they will do so and I rely on the many other validations that they are able to share. Much of the interaction that I have with them feels like a game of charades. They act things out for me and throw in images, symbols, words, phrases and songs to help get their point across. As a language teacher I am used to translating and interpreting several languages, and Spirit Speak is simply a fifth language to me; one with an ever-expanding vocabulary, because I am constantly being shown new images, songs and symbols to add to the Spirit Dictionary.
Q: How can I help to ensure that I get the most out of my reading?
A: It is perfectly fine to come in with a bit of healthy skepticism (they call it healthy for a reason!), but you must also keep an open mind. I never want to know anything in advance, but once the reading has begun, I do need confirmation when information provided from the Other Side is on point so that I know we are moving in the right direction. My goal is for your loved ones to do most of the "talking", but a simple "Yes, that makes sense," or "No, I'm not sure I understand what that means," from you is sufficient to let me know whether I need to ask them for further clarification or move on. If you sit there stone faced and never say a word because you are afraid of "giving anything away", you will impede the process and get much less out of the experience because I will spend the entire time trying to eek out more "proof" that it is them, rather than getting to any important messages of love, thanks or apology that often come after your loved one has validated their presence. Finally, the better informed you are, the better you will understand the process and what to expect, so (especially if you have never been to a medium) I urge you to visit the What to Expect Page before your reading.
Q: Will you let me know if you hear from my loved ones after my reading?
A: No, I will not hear from your loved ones outside of your reading. As much I enjoy spending time with you and your loved ones in the Spirit World, I have read for hundreds of people, and if I were to get updates for everyone I’ve read for, I would be hounded by spirits 24/7 and have zero time to myself. When I was a developing medium (when I was still teaching high school and mediumship was a “hobby”), I heard from the Other Side just about anytime a family member, friend or acquaintance lost someone. Now that I am a professional medium, I devote my free time outside of work to the living; my husband, children & grandchildren.
Q: When should I book another reading?
A: There is no hard and fast rule. I see the majority of my clients once or twice a year. I ask that you wait at least four months in order to give your loved ones something new to talk about, and to allow any new developments in your life to unfold.
Q: What happens if I have a “bad” reading?
A: There is no such thing as a “bad” reading (I consider every experience an opportunity to learn), but there are times when the connection between a psychic and a client is less than optimal. This can occur when a client is not emotionally ready for a reading (after a recent loss), or if they come in with a fixed idea about what they want to hear, rather than with an open mind (especially where romance is concerned). Thankfully, out of the 1,000+ readings that I have conducted, this has happened only a handful of times, and in each case we agreed to call it quits roughly halfway through the session and I happily refunded their money. To better understand why this can happen -and to avoid potentially wasting your time and money- please click on the following link and read further if you are at all nervous or hesitant about booking a reading: WHY READINGS CAN GO WRONG
Click below for:
ADDITIONAL MEDIUMSHIP FAQs
If you are experiencing paranormal activity in your home and considering booking an investigation, click below to get the answers to the most common questions about hauntings:
PARANORMAL/HAUNTING FAQs
Many people want to know more about the soul’s journey after physical death... in other words, what happens to us after we die. I don’t always have time to answer these questions over the course of a reading, so I created this list of FAQs:
AFTERLIFE FAQs
For answers to questions related to General Psychic (Future/Life Path) Readings (and other random psychic phenomena), click here:
GENERAL PSYCHIC FAQs
General Psychic (Future/Life Path) Readings that focus on your love life come with a very different set of expectations. For answers to FAQs specific to this topic, please click below before you decide to book this service: (currently unavailable)
ROMANCE READING FAQs